Can we presume that jerking it together isn’t gay?

We’ve been thinking about this story for our Sex Desk for awhile.

Not surprisingly there’s an online community for this sort of thing. It’s called Bateworld and it encourages guys to explore their fantasy of masturbation with other men.

Masturbation is a simple act of self-pleasure. However, even this simple act has a taboo. Often you’ll see “Dear Abby” type letters of wives asking if a man masturbating means that he’s cheating on her or looking somewhere else for sexual fulfillment. Some guys brag they “never have to” because they are too busy having sex with women.

Does It Make You Gay?

However, there is something very proto-sexual about masturbating with other guys and that’s what appeals to guys on Bateworld. Although most of the users are gay, there is a cohort of straight men who view it as male bonding in it’s purest and simplest form.

Certainly this has brought a new idea to the concept of male sexuality. The burning question is simple, does masturbating with other men or even lending them a helping hand or mouth make you gay?

This has been plenty of comedy fodder for different TV shows. In popular culture, it seems like a desperate and weird thing to do among guys who can’t manage to get laid. See what we mean below:

Homosocial vs. Homosexual

The straight men that participate in this often maintain that these acts reinforces their heterosexuality not contradicts it. For them, it’s a matter of bonding and getting closer to your male friends. Especially if you’re just watching porn, get turned on, and just want to experience an orgasm right there. Part of the problem is that until very recently, anything sexual with another man was considered homosexual and that comes with a whole other passel of problems including a loss of perceived masculinity, increased feminization, and a repulsion from other men. However, in 2019, it appears that this line between homosexuality and heterosexuality is getting blurry.

Men Getting Flexible

If the lines are getting blurry then the real question is, what actually makes you gay? A new picture of homosexuality starts to become clear: anal sex and romantic involvement. Engaging in penetrative sex with the same sex is still considered gay, so is being involved romantically with another man. But by these modern standards, men can engage in homosocial behavior and male bonding, involving self pleasure and leave the encounter with their masculinity and their heterosexuality intact. There are even offline clubs for this sort of thing. In Seattle, there is a masturbation club with very strict rules on what can go on. Masturbation, mutual masturbation and even head are available, however, actual penetrative sex is off limits.

One thing is clear: younger guys from Gen Z are much more hetero-flexible than men of previous generations. Stars like Jaden Smith are openly at least homosocial with others and he is flexible in his gender expression as well. Will this lead to more young men exploring their bodies with other men? It certainly seems so.

Dropping Trou

We welcome your interactions on social media on this topic. Are you engaging in this kind of sexual activity? Have you ever? Would you ever? Reply to us on Twitter: @rougesmag and let us know if you’re enjoy this kind of homosocial contact.