A special message from Editor-in-Chief, Cameron Cowan

It is not often that I address our readers directly. I prefer to reserve that for truly special moments or anniversaries of those special moments. However, this video touched my heart in a very particular way. It stuck with me and in my head and I knew exactly what I wanted to say.

We Won.

That’s it.

We Won.

Younger gay men have the chance to form healthy, normal relationships that aren’t based on a guy hitting on you in the bathroom at a seedy gay bar. They are able to be who they are around each other and their friends and to do that without the pressure of sex or having sex be the only way they know how to express their sexuality or their romantic desires. This is a tremendous amount of progress in a very short period of time.

When I was growing up and first had homosexual feelings, it was the in shadow of the AIDS crisis (which was still a thing in the late 90s) and in the shadow of gay men being killed. Matthew Shepherd was a young man who was dragged behind a truck and tied to a fence in Wyoming and left to die. As far as I was concerned, being attracted to other men meant I was going to die from AIDS, die from others, and/or go to Hell and be tortured by satan (some of us grew up religious). So I did not like the fact that I liked other boys. I didn’t want that and I rejected it. It is still hard for me because somehow it just seems wrong. That being said, when I say this video (which is hilarious) and I nearly cried. The day when gay men can just be men and love who they love is finally coming to pass. The fact that gay men can be more than just a penis or an ass and be their fully formed and emotionally available selves without stigma or hate is truly amazing. I know that we don’t live in a utopia of sexuality and homophobia is never far away. But the fact that Michael Henry even made a funny video addressing this made my heart sing.

To borrow a phrase from Oprah, “A new day is on the horizon.”